Step-parenting Ain’t Easy

Since 1938 when Snow white came out and then when Cinderella came out in 1950 we got introduced to the persona and stereotype of the evil stepmother. A person more likely than not a woman taking the role as the second wife or in the case of these movies the new Queen and the plot is pretty much the same when it comes to the step-mother’s if you look closely enough and analyze and overthink things like this writer does! And it is this woman coming out of nowhere and basically trying to destroy the child’s life.

(which makes me think that Cinderella and Snow White were written by Biological Mother just saying..). Anyway, by no means am I saying that all step-moms are angels and never do anything wrong and are perfect, I have seen some step-moms be and I have been just as mean and hard and difficult as A bio mother and I have seen some Step-Mothers do some very bad things but living in this Stereotype of all step-mother are evil and trying to destroy they’re step-children’s lives or take the place as they’re birth mother is completely false or has the kids today and for some reason Donald Trump say fake news if you will.

But then again in this world we all fall under some kind of stereotype, rather its the stereotype of race, or religion, or belief, or the stereotype of we must be this way to like this thing or this thing or in my case the stereotype of the evil step-mom. I met my husband in 2015 and I guess I became an official Step-mom in 2016 when I got Married and of course before becoming a wife and a step-mom I looked to the stereotype of this other woman stepping into a role that she shouldn’t have and boy did the judgement I passed come back to slap me in the face, ( remember everyone karma is a bitch).

I became a step-mom to a child with A.D.H.D. and O.D.D. and a bio mother who swore up and down that I was a homewrecker and A whore and a slut and made sure to call me that plus so much more because I messed up My step-son’s chance of having his Bio-mother and Bio-father together when in reality they have been apart since my step-son was born in 2009.

Do you know how hard it is to know that a whole group of people HATE who you are and the person you are just because of the person you fell in love with?

Do you know what its like to be under the microscope of your significant other’s family? under the microscope of your own family? under the microscope of the world just because you chose to love someone and marry someone with a child?

Do you know what its like to put your heart and soul and being and everything you are into a child that will never call you mommy or daddy? And you know in your heart that you will always be just the step-parent to this child? its the most hardest thing in the world and you have to have the most strongest and patient heart and mind. Its so easy to get lost in the stereotype and fall into it especially when you are hurt because step-parenthood is the toughest hood you will ever go through

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