February 16, 2018
I’m finding it unbelievably difficult to find something to write about right now. It’s been so long since I’ve written a blog I’ve become my own worst critic, and that’s including most internet dwellers who take advantage of the anonymity that the internet provides and hold nothing back when it comes to sharing their (sometimes quite harsh) opinions. Is that a bad thing though? Is it wrong? Because we are able to hide (to some extent, unless you’re a hacker) our identity, we tell the truth. Then on social media platforms (such as Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, Linked-in, etc.) we alter, edit, and filter our posts to maintain an “image” of ourselves that we later try to replicate in real life. Through social media we created a “filtered” version of ourselves. Think of the countless of pictures uploaded daily on Instagram… The majority will adjust the contrast, fix the flaws, and maybe add a filter. That in a way is what we are doing to ourselves. We are taking who we are, and slightly altering it here, adjusting it there, and then adding a filter on top of it amongst other things, in accordance to what we want other people to see and not necessarily who we truly are. Some might argue that they don’t do that, that who they are on Facebook is who they are in real life… Ok. But really? How many of the “candid” pictures are really candid? How many tries did it take for that selfie to come out just right? Once upon a time, photos were on film and you had 23-50 frames or however many fit the film, and there was no delete. Like it or not, once you turned that film in to get it developed, someone was taking a look at those negatives and having a good laugh at your expense. Life isn’t like that anymore.
For better or for worse, we can control peoples initial impressions of us simply by what we choose to upload onto our social media platforms, which then in turn effects the way they see us in real life. Here’s a hypothetical situation for you: A tells B about a girl named C. B is skeptical at first, although he’s been out of the dating pool a while and is willing to hear more. A continues on about C, and pulls out his latest iPhone and opens up her Instagram and Facebook profiles to further detail his narrative of C. B notes her almost flawless beauty, browses her photos and finds they have a lot in common based on her interests and check-ins. So he agrees to meet her. The date went well initially but as the night wore on, he found that somethings began to annoy him. She talked too much or she had an opposite stand on a political topic—or worse she had no real view at all, pick your poison. This is a comical and perhaps slightly exaggerated scenario that could very well happen in real life. C’s profile showed a fraction of who she really is, but exactly what she wants people to know about her. Then obviously she has to maintain that image as to not create duplicitous confusion. B’s first impression of her was that fraction. But how long before the other 85% of who she is begins to show? How to put it—holes develop in these impressions we develop that are slowly filled in by personality as we get to know a person in real time and real life.
I don’t even know what that means anymore. SO many things have changed since I was a kid, meaning things that were considered “important.” Only now am I realizing that what’s important is solely for each and every individual to decide for themselves. As I’ve grown, changed, aged, evolved—so has my outlook on life. Things that were once important no longer are, and that’s ok. The only constant thing in life is change. What’s sad is that the world has been fooled into following absurd trends, tricked into believing that material things and consumerism in itself has some sort of value. Worse yet, we allow these consumeristic things to define who we are instead of the other way around. These things are meant to make our lives easier, not to become our lives. I’ve seen someone have a literal breakdown because they had no internet and didn’t know what to do until it was fixed. We have slowly built our lives upon this magical thing that is technology—completely unaware that one day it could all just disappear. In the blink of an eye, computers could stop running, an electrical black out. What then?
I think I’ve rambled on long enough for my first post. And because I could take this in many directions I figured I’d leave it with an open ending and a little epilogue. My brother read through it and said that I over explain, that I should simplify. I hadn’t shown him the general concept of the blog. It’s in the title. “Ramblings of…” It’s just the things I think about and I know other people think it to. Everyone and anyone is free to lash out and let me have it. I’m always open for debate and discussion or an argument if need be… All in good fun of course 🙂 That’s of course assuming that anyone takes the time to read this… So if you have gotten this far then I sincerely thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Until next time!